Communication in dating and marriage
A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires, and beliefs.
In fact, communication is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying marriage.
It gives me something to focus on, and some creative ways to do so.
You notice you have a runny nose and you feel really tired.My sweet, thoughtful, generous husband is so good at spoiling me but there was a time that we laugh about now because everything he did was such a sweet thought but just slightly off from what I liked. Not going to lie, for us, although happy and full of joy, it was also stressful and easy to snap at each other. In the past, I’ve been guilty of paying attention to my phone and social media more than my husband when we drove (don’t worry– he’s the driver) but when we switched to playing 20 Questions, our communication and marital satisfaction began to sky-rocket!I love the Werther’s Creamy Filling candies and he remembered that I liked Werther’s but bought me the originals instead of the kind I loved. Another time, after a long hard day he went to pick up a pizza so I wouldn’t have to cook and I asked if that restaurant had the bread-stick crust. Gottman did a study on how marriages were affected at the time of the couples’ first child and concluded that, “The couples whose marriages thrived after the birth had detailed love maps from the get-go…These love maps protected their marriages in the wake of this dramatic upheaval.”It is so important to be refreshing your “love map” throughout life– continually learning each other’s thoughts and feelings so that when stress comes, you are in the habit of it and you have more to love because you know more about each other. It was a fun way to learn more about each other and we’ve been married four and a half years! Write down or spontaneously create a list of at least 20 detailed personal questions.In the next section, you’ll read an example of a potentially difficult situation for a married couple.
Look for all the different ways information is being communicated in the story below.
But once he or she sees you lying on the couch asleep with a box of tissues next to you, his or her entire demeanor and understanding of the situation instantly changes.